Despite the generous blesses in our
lives and the strong believe in Fate’s game, one cannot keep his feet mud free
in the pool of depression.
When you are content with your own
life you might point sarcastically at the mourning of others. Forgetting that
people differ in life scope, hopes, dreams, plans, worries, biology and
psychology.
Loud arguing and confronting a friend can
pass by in couple of hours to normal people but might be a big deal to others
that it would lead them to shy out and hide from the society.. ever asked
yourself why?
A person I recently met gave an
outrageous confession of not believing in psychology and the existence of its
illnesses. I was once in the same spot, I knew someone can get down and blue
but thought the rest is an exaggeration except total madness which is
incurable.
Yet when I met people with unfortunate
cases, I stopped myself in wonder and disbelief. What if what I see is not a
bit a like of what they see?! The way we simplify a math problem in attempt to
get it solved, what if a grown up human being lost this formula and had an
alternative mechanism of complicating matters and worse a tendency to
depression or death?!
A friend talked about philosophy and
the question of his life saying “what if the red I see is blue to you but we
were raised to agree that its called red?! How would you know that the hue I
see is not the same when we can’t get into each others mind?” this
statement that got stuck into my mind made me embrace the difference and
believe it exists.
For those who think they can read all
people behaviors and triggers, think again. A study shows that 85-90% of human
mind is a subconscious based. A part that you have no control over and a part
that drives you instead of you giving it a drive. If we assume that all the bad
and good experiences, emotions, memories are recorded there. Won’t you think it
will come back in a way or another? Yes it will and in some cases a person
might act this way and when asked for a reason he wouldn’t see a clear answer
coming. If they, themselves are not aware of their motivations who are we to
list them.
Me, myself not immune against all of
that. In fact these are my writings, my inner thoughts, and maybe a little
squeeze from my subconscious in there. I’ve always admitted that I find myself
more frequently depressed than the others, but what do we know about the others?
Every day is a fight to stay happy and a prayer for the best to happen.
I want you, my reader; to get a glimpse
of my happiness and save you my agony, that’s why I will always write about joy
here. And again if you think I got it all easily and without sweats and tears
you are not only fooling yourself, but you are underestimating the life holding
us all. When I started to be independent, I had to shed a tear at each and
every step I took until I reached my place. Life changes in a matter of
seconds, it can be unbearable and yet excitingly livable at another day. Its
how we deal with it that differentiate us.
In this century, it is sometimes
understandable to act cold and mean assuming everyone is not willing to
compromise and not worth the chance of letting them in anyway.. So we hurt,
judge and avoid. Its such a shame that such violent acts are so welcomed and
applauded for while the reverse is a signature of weakness and stupidity on the
face of the beholder. Later when the good is disgraced and the bad appraised
they wonder why many are committing suicide, many are lying in hospitals and mostly are
living dead.
“Live
as a Noble in your own land rather than a badass in theirs because they will
not be your loyalists in both ways.”
Another important view to look at is Destiny,
we were giving things in life and obviously its your choice to manipulate them,
yet sometimes fate stands in the way of controlling what seems easily
controllable. One day I was having dinner with a friend when all of a sudden a
little mentally disabled girl jumped on my French fries because she was hungry.
I was so damn scared but convinced myself that she meant no harm and kept
watching. When her mother came to apologize we totally lost our appetite
although we were starving and so excited for the meal earlier. She touched our hearts. She was living
in her own world disturbing the tables of other people without knowing much
other than it’s a food to reach your hands for with a smile. I didn’t think
life was hard on the little girl more than on the mother.. the tiredness and
carelessness showed all over her face. God’s fate picked them to suffer on
earth may they be blessed with heavens afterwards. When you are in such
position tell me how would you hold it together? Tell me is this a condition
you can get over with sessions of rehab? And aren’t you lucky enough to
understand my message to you?!
And if this doesn’t move you to look
around and respect the majesty of life diversity in creation, look back at our
prophet Mohammed testament! He asked us to fight the abuse with kind. Because a
human is a collection of psyches. And even in his life centuries ago people
still suffered from the ups and downs of the mind. The human can go astray from
his true nature, the nature of neutrality, loving, happiness and faithfulness.
And all religions came to emphasis that road to acquire those things still
valid and is engraved in the rocks as long as a person is alive. A talk
in a modern church in Seoul was held under the title “ clean your house ”,
stories and wise words were thrown to support the people to clean their hearts
and maintain their sober minds.
"Because we are, those fragile little things.."
Finally my dears I don't expect you to
change the way you treat people as much as I ask you to stop and think. Give
others excuses for what they've done, give them a chance to be a better beings
in your mind. Only when you think.. you will believe, and when you do believe..
you will start acting accordingly.
“Oh
dear god, I call you with the greatness of your creation, I know nothing about
life, never wanting to judge your servants; I’m asking you the protection from
the many they are tested by.”
Peace,
Amna Al Dhaheri
